When deciding to have a baby, there are many psychological factors which should be faced and dealt with. For either the male or the female to make a decision to have a baby and a family is a true ‘coming of age’. We are stepping away from being the child of our parents to being the parents of a child. We all have to deal with increased responsibility, a loss of freedom, a loss of choice and financial constraints. We also have to face a lifetime of commitment, not only to the child but also to our partner.

Follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH), which control the ovulation cycle, are produced by a small walnut-sized gland next to the brain, the pituitary gland, so it is perhaps anatomically acceptable that the emotion centres surrounding this gland feed into it chemicals that can block the production or release of FSH and LH. Long-term unhappiness such as that produced by an unhappy relationship or marriage can put persistent pressure on this gland and hamper its normal production. Stress in males, similarly, can also cause problems. So the simple experience of being happy with your partner can chemically affect your chances of becoming pregnant.

Whilst one is going through all the trials of conceiving, one must not forget that at the end of the day no one is really sure what makes the whole event happen. What is the vital force that gives life to any particular cell? Hindus believe that spirits choose their parents or more scientifically, that a life force enters a fertilized egg. I often see couples where one or both are so full of anger or misery that I find myself asking if I would really want these two as my parents. It is important, I feel, when inviting a spirit into a family unit that the environment is conducive. I always encourage peace and harmony in any infertile situation. Too many marriages and families break up because the parents were not suited, and how many relationships struggle on with the idea that the baby will make things ‘right’? It is vitally important for all involved to be content and happy. If, at any stage, negative emotions enter the scene in either partner, visit a counsellor.

Do not try to conceive when surrounded with negative energy.

Learn a meditation technique and spend a suitable amount of time each day practising this.

THE VESSEL OF CONCEPTION • Clear up any misunderstandings, mend any rifts and involve both your parents, especially your mother, in decisions concerning conception and pregnancy.

All philosophies of medicine that include an energy flow through the bodily system describe a mid-line channel or meridian. The Chinese call this the vessel of conception’, amongst other terms. It is so called because of the establishment, over thousands of years, of an energy flow from the pituitary gland (the hormonal controller of the female cycle) to the uterus. This energy line travels through or over the thyroid gland and the pancreatic gland. It is interesting, is it not, that pregnancy can induce both diabetes and hypothyroidism with no accepted scientific reasoning? This line then travels through the uterus (the testes in the male) to complete this energy channel.

My view is that a pregnancy draws energy into the uterus, thereby diminishing the vital force necessary for the correct maintenance of health within the thyroid and the pancreas. I believe that the vessel of conception receives energy from those close to us. Parents, in particular, pass energy from their vessel of conception to their offspring, and energy is also received from lovers and best friends.

A weakness in the relationship between any of our close contacts, partners and parents will lead to a weak vessel of conception. Energy is passed from both father and mother to their offspring and if the vessel of conception is not initially well supplied or refuelled along the way, then each pregnancy will drain the parents’ meridian, leading to problems with subsequent children.

It is essential to have a strong relationship with the partner when conception is considered and the connection between the intended parent and their parents should be strong and positive.


Eastern philosophies are much more spiritual in their consideration of pregnancy and use many techniques, including acupuncture, to relieve energy blocks, which in turn interfere with fertility. The West, through its dependence upon science, has lost touch to a great extent with the spiritual aspect of conception. Religions consider a birth ‘a blessing’ but little, if any, forethought goes into the preparation of starting a new life. Eastern medical philosophies differ substantially.

Mr J G Bennet, a philosopher and student of Gurdjieff, discussed the existence of spiritual genetics. He defined this as an energy that exists on an, as yet, immeasurable plane that travels with individuals and at the time of conception this energy is passed, along with the physical genetic material, into the embryo. Whether this occurs at the moment of conception or at some stage during the pregnancy is open to debate, whether it is the same thing as ‘vital force’ or the spark of life or whether it is a state of consciousness that may enter the foetus at later stage are all philosophical points. It is wise, however, to ensure that, when conceiving, both partners: are in a non-altered (alcohol and drug-free) state, want a child, love each other.

These are the three emotional components that traditional Eastern philosophies believe the human spirit can offer and to this you may add the contribution of whichever religion you may follow.


Sit with your religious advisor and talk.

Those of us who do not have such a teacher should find an Ayurvedic- or Tibetan-trained practitioner to draw on the medically associated aspects of correct spiritual preparedness.


Lastly, but only because of the scant evidence of accuracy, why not look at astrological patterns? If the Sun and Moon can shift huge bodies of water several miles, as the tides all over the world testify, why should not the small influences of Pluto and Jupiter cause changes in the microscopic amounts of fluid in the egg and sperm?

It is worth checking out whether you and your partner’s astrological charts are compatible and when the best time for a child’s birth would be. It is an interesting point that the time between conception and delivery is the same time it takes for the planets to reverse their aspects in the heavens. Perhaps charts should be drawn up at the time of conception rather than delivery. Might this rule out the inaccuracies that can occur?